Cruel Husband Calls His Wife a “Spoiled Brat” and “Daddy’s Girl.” People Are Torn About Whether He’s in the Wrong

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Brace yourselves—this husband’s cruel name-calling might shock you.

Calling your wife mean names is a good way to book a one-way ticket to Divorcetown. This husband decided to test the waters after feeling fed up that his wife received lavish gifts from her father. The two have a close-knit relationship, which didn’t sit well with him.

When the husband took to the internet to figure out if he was wrong for being frustrated with the situation, people didn’t hold back their livid opinions.

Here’s how the story played out:

Background

The husband, or original poster (OP), has been with his wife for 10 years. The couple, both 35 years old, has been married for five years and has a toddler together.

What was OP’s wife’s childhood like?

OP’s wife is the only child of a wealthy surgeon, her father. When she was two years old, her mother tragically passed away. It was mostly OP’s wife and her father growing up, as he didn’t remarry until she was 17.

OP’s wife went to private school and had college fully funded by her father. Even though she had a good job when she met OP at 25, her father still paid her rent.

Do OP’s wife and her father still have a close relationship?

According to OP, “She is such a daddy’s girl, and it’s been affecting our relationship. Anytime she wants or needs something, she goes to her dad first. Sometimes, it’s about things I could help with.”

OP then went on to give an example of how their close relationship has bothered him in the past, “I work in tech. Back when we started dating, she asked her dad, ‘What laptop should I get?’ I told her I actually work in the field and could easily answer that, and she just kind of shrugged.”

Did OP have a similar childhood?

OP’s background is very different than his wife’s. He grew up very poor and as a child of undocumented immigrants. OP’s parents are still married, and he has a good relationship with them even though they live on the opposite side of the country, and he doesn’t get to see them much.

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What are the couple’s finances like now?

The couple does well for themselves, in OP’s eyes. He says that they both have good jobs that make a similar amount of money. The couple can afford to make large purchases, such as a new car or house.

OP mentioned that even though the couple does well now, he still has issues he’s working through that are leftover from the extreme poverty and trauma he experienced growing up.

Is OP still bothered by his wife’s relationship with her father?

OP is still bothered by his father-in-law. He says that his wife’s relationship with her father has only been creating larger problems as of late. For example, last year, when OP’s wife wanted a new car, he didn’t agree. In his eyes, “Her car is fine, and she works from home and barely drives.”

OP’s wife, however, really wanted the car. A month later, she shocked OP by telling him that she would be getting a brand-new car. When OP responded that the couple needed to make large financial decisions together, she responded, “Oh, my dad is buying it. He said we can just sell mine and get some extra money.”

Was OP happy that the couple was getting a free car?

“I told her it’s kind of ridiculous to ask her dad to buy her a brand new car when she has a perfectly good one, and we don’t need it anyway,” said OP.

This made his wife upset, who then brushed off OP’s criticism. She thought that OP was “overreacting and that it was okay for her dad to do nice things for her.”

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What happened?

It wasn’t the car that pushed OP to write about this situation on the internet. It was the house.

When OP and his wife decided to purchase a house together, he reached his breaking point. The couple had narrowed their search down to two final options when OP’s wife changed her mind on one of them.

This is what she said:

OP’s wife loved one of the couple’s new house options before talking to her father. After their conversation, she said, “Oh, I don’t think (the house) is good. My dad said he thinks we could do a lot better in our budget.”

How did OP react?

OP wasn’t happy about his wife’s change of heart. “It didn’t matter what her dad thought because this is our family’s home, and he won’t be living there,” he explained.

The couple then started to argue and exchange unkind words. “I called her a spoiled brat and said she needed to grow up,” admitted OP.

What did OP’s wife say to his name-calling?

At that point, OP’s wife got upset and decided to sleep in the couple’s guest room for the night. Since then, the couple has barely spoken.

“She said I was ‘so mean’ to her,” said OP.

Was OP justified in his frustration? Here’s what the internet had to say:

OP should be using his FIL to his advantage

“You sound super insecure about her father. Take a moment to reflect. You’re on an online forum complaining that she asked her dad for advice on a laptop.

“You’re jealous. That’s all there is to it, and it’s pathetic. Instead of worrying about her relationship with her father and calling her names, why aren’t you using rich FIL to your advantage?

“You actually started a fight over her getting a new car neither of you had to pay for. Just insane.”

This isn’t about the house, it’s about a communication problem

“If OP is correct in what he writes, I get the impression that Daddy interferes too much. OP did not marry Daddy. He married Daddy’s daughter. The daughter married OP, not her daddy.

“There has to be less of OP’s wife doing what Daddy advises and more of OP and wife discussing and deciding things.

“I think that the car is not really the issue, nor the laptop. It’s years of OP’s wife getting Daddy involved in everything.

“Is this the equivalent of a ‘mommy’s boy,’ where we all support the woman and tell her to ‘divorce him, as he won’t change?'”

OP is just upset he can’t control his wife

“(OP) said no and felt that was the end of it. No discussion or compromise, just ‘no,’ and that’s final.

“He doesn’t like that she has external means of getting what she wants and needs, which he can’t steamroller over.

“Ironically, he’s acting exactly like a 1950s authoritarian father.”

Does OP even actually like his wife?

“(OP) sounds resentful and condescending of his wife. It doesn’t even seem like he likes her all that much.

“I could understand the frustration if Dad was offering his opinions unsolicited or if he was loaning the wife money for a car, but that’s not what happened.

“The wife is actively seeking out his advice, and he literally just gave them a free car. I think OP is insecure about his own earnings and frustrated that he can’t control his wife and rule the roost in regards to their major life decisions.”

There are too many people in OP’s marriage

“OP’s relationship has 3 people in it: OP, his GF, and his GF’s dad.

“If I constantly asked my friend for advice every single time my girlfriend and I had to make a decision—whether minor or major—I wouldn’t have a girlfriend for long.”

This article was written and syndicated by What the Fab.

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