Would you ever cross an angry bride?
One woman refused to attend her best friend’s wedding after being offered a once-in-a-lifetime career opportunity. Instead of celebrating her success, her best friend, the bride, was furious, but the woman really didn’t believe she did anything wrong—she had informed the bride of her availability before the wedding date was set.
With the friends at odds, the woman turned to the internet for an outside opinion.
Here’s how the story played out:
Background
The original poster (OP) is a freelance photographer. Her dream is to shoot large music festivals, specifically the main stages at Glastonbury.
The angry bride in question is OP’s best friend. They are extremely close, seeing each other at least once, if not multiple times a week. OP has been by the bride’s side for the entire wedding planning process, even offering to give the bride’s wedding dressmaker a free photoshoot if it would help bring the cost of the dress down for the bride.
How close is OP to achieving her dream?
OP has been invited to photograph Glastonbury in the past, an opportunity that is extremely competitive. According to OP, “There are so many people waiting to take your spot if you ever turn it down. I basically replaced a girl who couldn’t do it one year.”
What happened?
When planning her wedding, the bride asked OP if there were available dates for the venue she wanted that didn’t work for her. OP responded that the only date that didn’t work was June 29th due to Glastonbury.
Despite June 29th being the only date OP wasn’t available, the bride decided to schedule her wedding for that day anyway. “The caterer she liked was available that day,” explains OP.
The bride informed OP of this decision right before sending her invitations.
See also: How to Plan the Perfect Wedding Timeline
How did everyone react?
OP communicated to the bride that she wouldn’t be able to attend the wedding due to their job, as she previously mentioned to her.
The angry bride lashed out. She started crying, feeling as though OP was choosing work over her wedding. Instead of understanding, the bride chose to give OP the silent treatment, which stressed OP out even more.
So, who’s the bad guy here? The internet had some thoughts:
OP needs to pay the bills
“Of course, you’re putting your livelihood over her wedding. Her wedding doesn’t pay your bills, but the gigs you might get definitely will.
“I don’t know why she had to choose that weekend, but the results of doing so are 100% on her.”
The bride did this to herself
Mocked one commenter, “‘Here’s a list of dates. Any that don’t work for you?’
‘Just that one.’
‘Okay, I’ll pick that one. Wait, why can’t you come? Do you not love me?! You should choose ME over your livelihood if you care about me!'”
Another individual chimed in, saying, “Using anger and guilt to exert influence on OP to change their choice is manipulative, and shows a clear disregard for personal boundaries.”
Maybe there were other people the bride needed to schedule around
Wrote one user, “You don’t know what is happening here. Maybe the bride or groom’s parents can’t make it on the other dates. Maybe she can’t get the venue on other dates.”
Another agreed, “I’m going to just assume it’s scheduling over malice. Finding a venue date during ‘prime wedding season’ is a huge messy logistical game, where you simply cannot realistically ‘solve’ the scheduling for everyone you might want to be there.”
The bride is selfish
“She probably thought she could convince you or guilt you into sacrificing your well-being for her selfish wants. She probably thought she could have both.
“She likes you, she wanted you at her wedding. She’s just a really crap friend who wasn’t concerned about your feelings.
“You might want to consider whether this is a pattern with her. How good of a friend is she to you?”
This bride canceled her own surprise wedding
Without proposing first, one woman’s boyfriend decided to have a surprise wedding for them filled with her friends and family.
Here’s the thing: she didn’t want it, and her family was furious.
Is this the only time wearing white to a wedding is justified?
Usually, “don’t wear white” is the golden rule of weddings. However, this woman’s violation of the age-old rule seems justified.
This isn’t the only wedding drama happening
OP isn’t the only person dealing with an angry bride.
When a woman agreed to be her brother’s fiancée’s made of honor, she didn’t think it would entail paying for most of the wedding’s vendors.
The couple didn’t pay her back, so the sister canceled every single vendor she booked.
Who was wrong? Here’s exactly how it went down.
Elise Armitage is an entrepreneur and founder of What The Fab, a travel + lifestyle blog based in California. At the beginning of 2019, Elise left her corporate job at Google to chase her dreams: being an entrepreneur and helping women find fabulous in the everyday. Since then, she’s launched her SEO course Six-Figure SEO, where she teaches bloggers how to create a passive revenue stream from their website using SEO. Featured in publications like Forbes, Elle, HerMoney, and Real Simple, Elise is a firm believer that you can be of both substance and style.
