“She’s Manipulative!” Hypocritical Man Enraged When His Fiancée Agrees to the Prenup He Asked For

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Prenups are a tough topic to navigate for any soon-to-be-married couple. Disagreements over whether or not the couple should even have one can set off explosive arguments before the terms and conditions are even discussed.

A man found himself fighting with his fiancée after insisting that they sign a prenup before getting married. She refused for six months, eventually causing him to drop the conversation. Two months before the wedding, she had a change of heart, passing him a prenup to review and sign.

The situation was resolved, and the couple lived happily ever after, right?

Not so. The man became livid, labeling his fiancée as “manipulative” and causing a blowout fight. He took to the internet to ask if he was in the wrong.

Here’s how the story played out:

Background

The man, or the original poster (OP), is 31 years old. His fiancé is 28. The couple has been together for four years, living together for two of them.

OP is a lawyer who specializes in commercial real estate. His fiancée comes from a well-off family and also has a high-paying job in addition to a master’s degree.

Why did OP want a prenup?

OP explained that previously, he had never thought about getting a prenup. It wasn’t until he was influenced by his parents and some videos on social media about “men getting screwed in divorce” that he decided to ask for one.

“I also did it because my parents wanted me to,” admitted OP.

Why did OP’s parents demand that a prenup be signed?

OP’s father previously “had his money stolen by his first wife,” in OP’s terms, motivating his parents to insist that he got a prenup.

Also contributing to their desire for OP to sign a prenup is that they want to make sure their belongings are predicted. “They have some assets they want to pass along to me. Not a huge amount, essentially a million-dollar house (which is only a three bed, two bath but in an expensive city),” said OP.

Was OP’s fiancée willing to sign a prenup?

OP’s fiancée was heavily against the idea of the couple getting a prenup. When a prenup was suggested, OP said, “She was extremely angry and thought I was trying to take advantage of her.”

Continued OP, “She also is very prideful, and after talking to her, it seems she hates the idea of agreeing to sign a prenup being more of a pride thing. I also accidentally told her my parents wanted it.”

Why did OP drop the prenup conversation?

After six months of trying to convince his fiancée that a prenup was the right decision, OP finally gave up on the conversation. He did so only because she has a high salary, an advanced degree, and comes from a well-off family.

What happened?

Just two months before the couple’s wedding on the Amalfi Coast, OP was surprised by his fiancée. She presented him with a prenup and suggested that he contact a lawyer to read it before signing.

Was the prenup OP’s fiancée had written fair?

OP said that at first glance, the prenup had most of what he asked for, included some of what she wanted, and was fair to both parties.

How did OP react to his fiancée’s prenup?

Instead of being excited that his fiancée changed her mind and gave in to his ask, OP was left feeling frustrated. He had argued with his parents over his fiancée’s refusal to accept a prenup, and it had damaged their relationship.

What did OP say to his fiancée?

OP lashed out at his fiancée, labeling her as manipulative several times. As OP described, “I yelled at her that she was manipulative and should have told me earlier.”

Continuing his outrage, OP said it was “like she planned this move to test me.”

How did OP’s fiancée respond?

OP’s fiancée responded to his fury by stating that initially, she wasn’t okay with the prenup. It wasn’t until she attended months of therapy that she realized why she wasn’t okay with signing the prenup and could accept it.

In her mind, the prenup represented OP’s lack of trust in her when he proposed. Now that OP had proven that she did have his full trust, she was able to accept it and give in.

As OP became more upset with her, he says that she eventually shot back that his parents did play a role in her desire to avoid a prenup. “She argued I wanted a prenup because I watched sexist men on [social media] and listened to my parents over her, so she needed to see if I would take her side,” explained OP.

Is OP wrong for getting angry and calling his fiancée manipulative? The internet didn’t hold back their opinions:

This can’t possibly be a test

“If you’re so convinced it was a test, then you’re an idiot.

“She educated herself. She probably felt [awful] for it, too. ‘Tests’ don’t last for MONTHS—they’re designed for IMMEDIATE reaction.

“She took what you said and apparently chewed on it for a long time and realized YOUR way was the right way, and you’re UPSET about that?

“She likely didn’t talk to you about it because you’d react LIKE HOW YOU’RE REACTING NOW.

“You let yourself be influenced by outside parties, you lost ungraciously, and now you’ve been given exactly what you want, you’re angry.

“You’re angry she took the time and the thought to actually consider what you said and did what you wanted.”

Best of luck to OP’s fianceé

“You’re exhausting. I mean, seriously…she agreed to the prenup, and now you’re upset that she agreed to it??? You sound impossible to please, and I wish her all the luck in the world; I think she’ll need it.”

OP is not wrong for asking why, but is wrong for not accepting the reason

“It’s fair to ask her about why, but her response was that she spent hours with a professional exploring why your request initially bothered her and made her upset. [She] realized that she had an irrational response. It’s not like she was saying no to ‘test’ you.

“Your relationship is not the relationship angry men on [social media] had. People who got a prenuptial agreement or didn’t and had things work well don’t often decide to post about such topics. She’s right in the sense that you aren’t pulling from great sources.

“As for your parents, I get people asking parents for advice, but your parents have no actual place in your relationship. She is marrying you, not them. You are your own person and a grown adult. Your parents need to respect YOUR decisions even if they aren’t in line with what they think is best.”

Did OP’s father even actually get his money stolen?

“Your father had his money stolen by his first wife, or she received what she was legally entitled to?”

OP is a hypocrite

“Let me get this straight. You never thought about prenups in your adult life. It was a non-issue. Something your parents mentioned once or twice, but you didn’t really care. Then you watched a few videos on YouTube, a famously balanced and well-reasoned source of information (/s), and suddenly told your fiancée that you wanted one.

“Your fiancée spent upwards of 6 months arguing about it with you, considering her options, talking to her therapist, considering your terms, coming up with her terms. She may have even researched. She may have even watched YouTube! And she determined over the course of that long period of time that her knee-jerk reaction was short-sighted and that you were right.

“And you think HER decision was too sudden? You, who put approximately the same amount of thought into it as a kid watching a toy commercial? You who didn’t care about a prenup until you watched some biased videos?

“Does she need to make you a slideshow outlining her months of thought? Does she need to time-travel back to that first conversation and agree immediately? What exactly do you want from her to prove that her changing her mind was genuine and not manipulative?

“YTA. Because you watched the toy commercial, bickered for six months about how you HAD TO get the shiny new toy immediately, finally got it through your head that whining and arguing doesn’t earn you any toys, woke up Christmas morning, opened your present, saw the shiny new toy you’d been wanting all year, and threw a tantrum because you got it today instead of 6 months ago and nobody warned you.”

This article was written and syndicated by What the Fab.

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